Why do some guys lose out when they really like a woman and other guys win? There are many reasons but one of the important reasons on How To Win Her Affection – Momentum. There is a natural flow and unfolding to develop affection, but often men and women are not always on the same page.
What does a Man need from a Woman to have a Chance with Her?
She needs to be open to him. Is a woman just open or not open? Not always. How you are with her can create the possibility of her being open or closed to you. A common thing that men do that backfires for them with women is to come on strong and then pull back This can feel very unsafe to women and they will likely pull their emotions back as well.
Men Taking Time to See What they Think is a Natural Process
One problem that happens when a man steps back to figure things out is that when he comes back he expects the woman to be open with him just as she was before. She may have pulled back because he stopped paying attention to her. He may interpret this as her being less attracted to him when she was thinking he had lost interest in her.
Her interest is not what changed…what changed was the momentum from him causing her to be less open. Many great relationships were stopped in their tracks because of men and women needing something different from each other in dating.
3 Great Tips How to Win Her Affection:
1. Frequency – a woman will expect you to keep up the same frequency of contact with her. If you drop off the contact frequency she will likely pull her emotions back. Be conscious of how often you’re calling, texting or seeing her and know that if you change it she will notice. If you have to make a change because of your schedule you can let her know so she does not pull back.
2. Don’t Disappear – many men need time to consider a woman once they have started to think she’s more than just a casual attraction. When you pull back to take time to think about things, it can feel like you disappeared to the woman you like. This is very scary to a woman and she will likely pull back from being open to you. If you need time to think about things tell her what you are doing so she does not think you disappeared.
3. Consistent Confidence – it is attractive and feels safe (feeling safe is necessary to be open) to women when a man is confident about his feelings for her and is consistent with how he expresses how he feels about her. If there are changes to this or you begin to express doubts out loud she can pull back. If you need to consider what you think about her before committing you may want to do this on your own and not out loud until you are sure.
We hope this article about how to win her affection – momentum has been helpful.
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